Some General Life Advice

I’m not usually very sentimental on here, but I had something I felt was important to share. I’m going through a time in my life right now, where I am genuinely happier than I’ve ever been, and every day is a blessing. I have a new wonderful job, I love the people I work with, I’m getting married to an AMAZING man who is my soul mate, who himself comes from an amazing family, an incredibly supportive network of friends and things honestly couldn’t be better right now.

That being said, I have a lot of loved ones who are going through incredibly difficult periods in their lives right now. And I went through that same difficulty myself for that last 8 years or so. So, I wanted to reach out to those I love, and let you know… IT GETS BETTER.

I promise, God rewards good people. If you are kind from the bottom of your heart, you will go through terrible trials and tribulations that seem completely unjustified. Push through it. These are tests that you must pass BECAUSE you are an amazing human being, and after it’s all said and done, everything will come together. That is my RB-Guarantee. Look around yourself for proof. Do you notice terrible people have it really easy early in life, and suddenly, everything crashes and burns? If you are good, YOU WILL BE OK.

That being said, there’s things you can certainly do to help. Excuse my impertinence, but I have some guaranteed tips that will help ease the pain in the mean time.

1. Learn to accept that you are a wonderful human being, even with your faults. This is easier said than done. DON’T BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF.

2. MEDITATE. Meditation makes everything easier and it calms you down and decreases your cortisol levels! Lots of health benefits!

3. Know that things WILL get better. I’m sure you can use your own life’s examples to validate that.

4. Think Positive! The world isn’t against you. It’s making you stronger so you can easily accomplish your goals later in life and find your “The One”.

5. Relax. Seriously. It’s hard to take time for ourselves in this day and age and just not do anything. Both your mind and body require time to rebook and re-energize. Keeping yourself busy isn’t giving you time to repair yourself. Sometimes, it’s good to just sit, do nothing, and not worry about the billion things you have to do. I promise you will be more efficient after a break.

And FINALLY 6. Embrace your faults and know that you can always improve yourself. Work on introspection and making yourself better! BUT, remember it’s not make or break. There’s no deadline. You’re doing it for yourself! If you feel like you’re not making progress fast enough in ANYTHING, that’s ok!

And remember, if you have ANY problem at all, I’m always here to talk to a friend, whether we haven’t talked in a week , in 7 years or really ever. Myself and I’m sure your support network are always here for you!

I hope this post helped even one person. Other than that, I hope everyone has an absolutely wonderful week! 

 

~RB

The Bachelorette Season 12: A Review (Part 10)

Hi All! Let’s jump straight into it. This week is the “Men Tell All” episode! Predictions: Chad shows up and somehow starts a fight with everyone! Let’s continue.

Chris starts the show off with Chad is here, and a quip about how security is too. The entire beginning of the show is basically just a giant advertisement for “The Bachelor” franchise. There was a lot of time spent promoting “Bachelor in Paradise”. Moving forward, the guys all get introduced, with the exception of Chad, who Chris says will be brought out later.

They focus a bit on the heat between Derek and Alex throughout the season. Alex regularly called Derek manipulative. Nick B. (St. Nick) however, steps in and defends Derek saying that Alex is manipulative and argumentative. Wells points out that Alex is a War hero, and since he’s spent most of his time in conflict, he probably feels most comfortable with it. The guys point out that Alex put more energy into taking down Chad than he did Jojo. Frankly, this whole nonsense is going to take up 100 pages if I write it all, so let’s just stick with key points.

Chad finally comes out, with a security guard. Chad calls the guys fake. We find out that Chad has actually gone out of his way to date Grant’s ex and Robby’s ex! Wow. Apparently, he seeked them out to specifically find out if the guys left them for the show, they said yes, and he has had intimate relationships with both. Wow dude. Wow. And then, out of nowhere, Nick B. tries to get into a fight with Chad? Not sure why. The only thing Chad keeps doing throughout all his interactions with the guys is cracking jokes about them and being generally intolerable. He even goes so far as to say that Robby has threatened his ex that if she does any interviews that he’s “going to come and get her” which the rest of the guys immediately call BS on. Chris asks Chad if there’s anything he regrets doing, and Chad, obviously, says no. Apparently, his mom would have thought everything he did on the show would have been funny.

Chris announces that both Chad and Luke will both be on Bachelor in Paradise. And time for Luke to come up! He says that he still loves her, but he just wants her to be happy. He mentions that Jojo taught him to love again and open up, but to have that and then having it end so suddenly gave him a lot of panic attacks afterwards.

Next up, Chase! He says he’s still in love with her, but confused as to why she offered him the fantasy suite if she didn’t want to be with him. That question will be answered when Jojo comes up! Can you see how they drag this on?

Jojo’s in the hot seat now! Luke asks Jojo if he had said I love you earlier, would it have made a difference? Jojo says that on the last date, he just wouldn’t say the word love, and that really bothered her, but once he said I love you, she felt maybe he was saying it forced and she just felt she had to stick with her gut. Chase goes up to give Jojo a hug, but then asks her his burning question. Jojo says she just felt anxious about hearing I love you from him, and there’s nothing scary about the words but that’s when she realized what she was feeling, and that she still feels guilty over it. James Taylor has his turn, and uses the time to tell her that she’s the whole package. Chad interjects here, and uses the opportunity to call out Robby for breaking up with his girlfriend for the show and to call Jordan a liar and cheater, but “wishes her the best”. The crowd starts cheering for her to go off on him, but she tells them that he loves the attention and she’s not even worth her breath.

Now the guys have the floor to say whatever they want to say to her. Alex wants to tell Jojo that even though it hurt, he’s glad she had the ability to be so strong in all her decisions. Vinny says that it sucks, that she canceled the cocktail party his last night, because he would have looked forward to some alone time with her. THEN, his mother pops up from the audience and tells Jojo that if she wanted a perfect guy, she missed him!

After that, they showed some bloopers from the show, and we’re onto next week, “The Final Rose!”

RB’s Psych Corner

I have to say that there isn’t much here other than either Chad is crazier than I thought he was, or these executive producers are really invested. Regardless, I’m glad this nonsense is almost over because I’m confident she’s going to make the wrong decision.

Onto next week, a three hour special, which I’ll put all into one article!

The Bachelorette Season 12: A Review (Part 9)

Okie doke. The motivation to write is back, only because this season is FINALLY over. That being said, we have this episode, the “Men Tell All” episode, “The Final Rose” and “After the Final Rose”. So hopefully, I can just power through all of this before my DnD game tonight! Let’s go! I wanna see how crazy Chad gets at the “Men Tell All” episode!

When we last left off, Jojo had to eliminate one of the guys. It was about to be Luke, and then he said he loves her. My current prediction is Jordan stays and I have no idea who the hell gets eliminated.

And we’re jumping straight into the Rose ceremony! I’m thinking she might decide to get rid of Luke after all, because she walked in with an incredibly determined walk.

Rose Ceremony!

First Rose: Jordan
Second Rose: Robby
Third Rose: Chase

BAM. Luke looks super confused. Jojo’s crying. It’s a mess. She tells him that this is really hard for her, but the first day she met him, she had never had that kind of connection with anyone ever before. But as time went on, she struggled with where he stood (basically, he confessed a little too late). Luke says that just sucks because he knew what they could have had. Luke seems like he’s in straight up shock. He ends with “So you didn’t want me anymore?” Dude seems like he just got broken up with out of left field, which is a little odd to see on a dating reality show, but it’s obvious he really cared about her. Poor guy just seems super confused and shocked. He says “Sorry” as he’s getting into the car, which poor Jojo is having a hard time dealing with the whole situation. In the car, Luke says he can’t process what just happened and this isn’t what’s supposed to be happening. He says he was in love with her, but he never got the chance to love her. That’s an incredibly deep sentiment; it really kills to watch this honestly. It’s one of the first times I’ve seen one of the guys just generally broken that it didn’t work out, not because of a competition or some complex or ego or anything. He just wanted to love her and regretted not saying it earlier. This whole time, Jojo’s crying and saying she already misses him.

New scene and we’re in Thailand for Jojo to “decide her soulmate”. This is the week of “overnight dates”. Which usually mean something mischievous happens. First date night, Robby! They’re in a cute market and making out in public, which for the record, is a big no-no anywhere in Asia. But moving on. Suddenly a storm starts! Monsoon season is definitely my favorite season! They’re talking during a Thai massage and Jojo mentions that even though a lot of people would think it was too soon for Robby to tell her that he loves her, she really liked that because it allowed her to start trusting him and open up to her earlier. Time for dinner, and Jojo’s reliving her nightmare with Ben and how he said he loves her back, but then went back on it later. She says how Robby saying he loves her makes it a little bit more difficult to trust him. Dude, what the hell do you want out of these guys?? He then brings out a note that his dad wrote him after the fiasco of his ex at the hometown dates. Jojo’s really touched by the letter (as am I), and she then offers him the “Fantasy Suite” which is known for..things happening. At this point, Robby starts calling Jojo “Joelle” (her real name), which is a dart through my very heart. You use someones real name when you really love them, and it’s adorable. Meanwhile, Jojo tells Robby that she has very strong feelings for him, super emphasis on the the strong. Basically, she’s saying she loves him, but doesn’t want to say it yet, because she doesn’t want a Ben repeat. However, in a private interview, she says that she’s confident she loves Robby and she wants to be intimate with him. We have no idea whether she told him or not. We come to the next morning and their having an adorable couple breakfast together. She reiterates to the camera that she’s in love with Robby, but she confirms that she didn’t say anything to him. She tells the camera that she’s not going to say it until she knows she’s ready to spend the rest of her life with someone. Here’s to rooting for Robby!!

Next up, Jordan’s here! Jojo tells the camera that she’s definitely falling in love with Jordan. They’re on some crazy ass hike that there’s no way in hell I would be able to do. They end up at some cave where the climb down a bazillion steps to end up at a temple. There’s apparently no kissing inside the temple (duh) and it really bums out Jojo because “they have so much chemistry”. They start talking about Jojo’s family, and she mentions that they’re a very protective family. To the camera, Jojo mentions that she’s scared that Jordan may be too good to be true. Time for dinner, and Jojo’s worried about trusting Jordan. She asks him what he thinks the next year will look like and Jordan answers that he doesn’t know. She mentions her concern is that their lifestyles might be too different. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with her, and she mentions that’s the same thing Ben said so it scares her now. So how does Jordan know he’s in love with her? He says he has a feeling with her that he’s never had before, he’s different and better around her, and when he thinks about his wedding day, it’s with her. Now Jojo gives Jordan the keys to the Fantasy Suite, and we have night 2 of this. Somehow, something tells me Jojo isn’t as excited as she was with Robby but that might be wishful thinking. To the camera, she mentions that she loves him, but she’s definitely not ready to tell him that. In the morning, Jojo still doesn’t seem as excited as she was with Robby, but maybe it’s a different kind of excitement? Jordan, on the other hand, is super confident. Jojo mentions to the camera that she is starting to understand how Ben got to saying he loves two women at the same time.

Finally, Chase! He rides in on a motorcycle. Dude is way more confident and happier than he was in any previous episode. They’re obviously having a bunch of fun together and being really playful, which I haven’t seen this side of him at all, but that’s the power of editing. She’s just having a perfect day with Chase and she says he just brings an unbelievable amount of joy with him.

Between their day date and night date, guess who swings by Jojo’s apartment? It’s Robby! Yay! He says some real real sweet stuff, and tells her he’s ready to get down on one knee whenever. For Jojo, this apparently reaffirms why she loves Robby, which is good.

Dinner time, and Chase is still being super adorable and toasts to her trusting him! And that means he gets the Fantasy Suite. He’s telling the camera that she deserves to know that he does in fact love her. He’s pretty in secure with “I love you”s as well, and so is Jojo so I think she knows just how much it means. She doesn’t look super excited. On camera, she says that hearing him say it, she just isn’t feeling the way she should feel when he says it. Uh oh. She tells him she needs him to hold on a moment, and she just leaves the room. Real uh oh. I have a feeling she’s gonna send him home before the Fantasy Suite night even ends. She tells the camera that their relationship just isn’t where it needs to be. She’s definitely sending him home. She comes back into the room, she tells him that when he said “I love you”, she just didn’t feel what she thought she was going to feel, and she just doesn’t know if she’s in the same place as him. She tells him she doesn’t think that spending the night together would change that feeling, and she almost feels its unfair. She tells him to respond, and he gets a little upset saying that he just jumped over a hurdle he’s never jumped over before and now he’s getting skewered and scattered. He says that he now completely regrets saying that and to him, saying I love you basically means “get the f- out”. He tells her that she didn’t even give their love a chance, and she says it comes down to whether in a week or not, she doesn’t know whether she can say I love you back. She’s just trying to be honest and fair, and she doesn’t want what happened to her to happen to him by blindsiding him. He responds that she just did all that. She tells him that he was everything she could have ever wanted, and he says that if that’s rue, how come it didn’t work. He starts walking out the door himself. She chases after him, saying she doesn’t want this to be the last thing he thinks of when he thinks of her. He says that she totally broke his heart, and walks away into the car. He comes away with that this all happened because he said he loves her, and he should have never said that. He’s embarrassed and heartbroken.

Rose Ceremony time and a monkey almost stole one of the roses on the table! Probably my favorite part of this episode. She says saying goodbye to Chase really solidified her feelings for Jordan and Robby. She starts off with the guys by saying that she sent Chase home and that it was really difficult. In the middle of her speech, Chase walks in! What?? Can he even do that?? Naturally, Robby and Jordan sigh with all these second chances and twists that keep happening at rose ceremonies this season.

Chase takes her off into some random jungle, and he tells her that he cares too much to let the relationship end the way it did. He says he was shocked and that’s what caused the anger. So he’s not asking for a second chance, but he’s there just to tell her that he’s proud of her, and he thinks she’s amazing. And most of all, he’s not mad at her. Jojo thanks Chase for coming back, and they say their goodbyes.

Jojo goes back to the guys and reassures them that she’s so excited about her feelings for them.

Rose Ceremony!

First Rose: Jordan
Second Rose: Robby

Big surprise? Anyways, Jojo tells the guys she’s excited to have them meet her family, but she tells the camera that it’s a cruel twist of fate that she’s in the same boat that Ben was in, and next week will be very difficult for her.

After credit scene: Jojo’s talking to the camera and she’s being serenaded by monkeys! I would be so happy, but she seems like she’s not prepared for it.

Next week is Jojo’s hometown! Let’s see what happens! Here’s to praying Robby wins!

RB’s Psych Corner

There isn’t a lot to analyze as we’re getting to the end here. The one thing I’m really noting is that Jojo needs a man who is balanced in a respectful and caring way, but also is fun and allows himself to let loose and crack jokes when he’s around her. We already know Jordan has made it this far because she has a weird thing for the “bad boy” quality. It just so turns out, Jordan has a balance of that and being genuinely sweet, which worked out better for her than we could have hoped. I was prepared for him to be Chad-like, but I’m genuinely happy with the person he’s turned out to be. That being said, I still don’t think they’re a good match. Personally, I think Robby is perfect for her. He’s kind, considerate, tells her everything she needs to hear to not have a billion insecurities, and really fun for her to be around! But, we’ll have to see if the devil on her shoulder speaks louder. What’s most poignant to me is that Robby is obviously 100% in since basically day 1, and has been nothing but open with her. However, it seems like Jordan’s been a bit slower to pick up and I’m not certain he’s ready for the level of commitment that Robby is. I mean it’s obviously absurd to base any relationship of a timeline of “you have to propose to me in 2 months or else I’m breaking up with you”, but in the sense of this show, it obviously makes more sense to pick someone who’s ready for that commitment, that someone who’s not. It remains to be seen what happens!

We’ll find out Jojo’s decision in two articles, since next article is The Men Tell All!”. Let’s go!

The Bachelorette Season 12: A Review (Part 8)

2 episodes to catch up! We’re almost there!

This week is the hometown visits, and I’ve clearly lost my motivation to continue writing. The completionist in me is the only thing keeping me going.

First up is Chase’s hometown, Highland Ranch, Colorado! Chase wants to tell Jojo that she’ll be meeting his mother and father separately, due to how terrible their divorce was, but he doesn’t want things to be awkward. They go to meet his dad first, and Jojo enters an empty house. Dad comes in after some house investigation on Jojo and Chase’s part, and we find out that Dad’s remarried with several step-children. For some reason, Chase takes this opportunity to ask his dad why things didn’t work out with Chase’s mom. Dad basically says that he was overly focused on work and he regrets how things worked out. This seems to be eye-opening for Jojo and she understands more now why he’s so closed off emotionally. So, Chase asks Jojo for some alone time with Dad, which again, seems really odd. Dad leaves without spending alone time with Jojo, again odd. But Jojo seems to be into it. Next is Chase’s mom! There’s mom, step-dad, sister and brother-in-law. Mom takes Jojo aside, and they have some alone time (yay normality!). Jojo and mom are really bonding. Meanwhile, sister and Chase are hanging out, and Chase asks sister for her honest opinion. Seems like sister is just as emotionally messed up as Chase, which is good validation for him, but seems like he’s very confident about his feelings for Jojo. Mom and Chase are having alone time now, and Mom is the cutest little mom! She seems to really like Jojo, and she asks Chase if he’s ready to propose, to which he responds that he absolutely is. He says that he’s “definitely falling in love with Jojo”, which seems a bit slow, but great progress for the dude! Good job buddy!

Next up is Jordan in Chico, California! Jojo’s super adorable when she sees a bunch of deer! She freaks out and it’s super cute! Jordan takes her to his high school first, where she gets to meet his football coach. Already, anytime Aaron (his brother) gets brought up, things get super weird. Regardless, Jordan’s super excited to introduce her to the rest of his family, which is a good sign! Jojo is considerably more nervous to meet Jordan’s family that she was to meet Chase’s family, which I’m going to say is a bad sign for Chase. So we have mom, dad, brother, and brother’s girlfriend! She seems to really love his family, but Aaron not being there really seems to bother her. Luke pulls Jojo aside, and the first thing she bring up is Aaron missing. Luke mentions that it pains the whole family and it seems like neither Luke or Jordan gets along with Aaron at all, which is a bit of a twist for me, since I anticipated Jordan would be the only one with problems. Luke mentions that Jordan is one of the people who has the most integrity. Next up, Jordan and Luke have their alone time, and Luke asks if Jordan is ready to get married, to which Jordan quickly responds yes. Luke says he really likes her, which seems to mean a lot to Jordan. Jordan and Dad are talking alone now and Dad mentions it’s the first time he’s ever seen Jordan this happy with a girl. Next is Jordan and Mom, and she’s very excited for him. Jordan mentions that he’s really missing Aaron, and he regrets that Aaron wasn’t there for such a special moment. Meanwhile, Jojo’s telling the camera that she’s really scared that Jordan isn’t going to always want to be there for her, and she parallels it to her situation with Ben, saying she wants to say “I love you” back to Jordan, but doesn’t want a repeat situation. Again, none of this happened with Chase, so I’m going to say more bad signs for Chase. Jordan is naturally confused with Jojo being scared again. He tells the camera that his feelings for her grew exponentially after she met his family and he’s ready to get down on one knee and he wouldn’t do that “just to see where this goes”.

Next is St. Augustine, Florida for Robby! She says she’s super excited to meet Robby. He asks her to whistle, and a horse drawn carriage comes bustling in! They take a carriage tour through the town. She says she has moments where she feels like she’s falling in love with him, but other times where she feels conflicted, mainly because of his previous relationship. Robby’s very optimistic about how he thinks that nothing can go wrong, which leads me to believe that things are going to go very wrong. We move over to his hometown, Jacksonville, where Jojo says she’s super excited and nervous to meet his family! Jojo meets a lot of people. Mom, Dad, sisters Grace and Katie, Katie’s husband Tyler, and brothers Micheal and Patrick. Goodness. Honestly, their family is super adorable, and apparently they think the same thing. Robby and his brothers get some alone time, and they love her immediately and say that she fits in perfectly. Mom and Jojo are hanging out and Mom asks if Jojo has any questions, and she immediately asks about his ex, and she’s concerned he didn’t take enough time for himself after the breakup. Mom says Jojo’s basically got nothing to worry about. Jojo tells Mom that she hasn’t told anyone yet, but she’s falling in love with Robby. HOT DAMN. That’s unexpectedly happy news! Now Robby and Mom have some time, and Mom has some bad news. Apparently, ex’s roommate is spreading rumors that Robby broke up, so that he could go on the show. Mom says she knows that that’s not true, but she needed to let Robby know, and he already knows she has concerns about it. 100%, I believe him. That is the face and voice of an incredibly honest man, and I hope to God that Jojo sees that. Robby walks in on sisters and Jojo, to interrupt and tell her the news. It seems that Jojo’s not taking it well, and seems like she’s not believing him. My heart is dropping right now, because I really want her to believe him. We find out her that their relationship was already on the verge of ending, but Robby called it off when she slapped him during an argument. He hasn’t spoken to her since. Honestly, kudos to him! She’s really not handling it well, but she’s being super open with him and he’s being very open right back. She ends up telling him that she trusts him and she’s going to try not to worry about it.

Next is Burnet, Texas for Luke. Dude walks in looking like he came right out of a Western. She mentions that she likes him a lot, but she wants to see more emotional depth out of him. They pull up, and apparently there’s a party being thrown for them! Mom, Dad, sister, and 15 other people are all there! She mentions that she’s a little overwhelmed. Luke and mom are hanging out and mom doesn’t seem as excited as the other moms, but maybe that’s just her personality? Dad is next, and he seems to really like her. He says once he knows that she’s in it, he’ll be ready to give her his whole heart. Like everyone else, Luke says he’s ready to tell her that he’s falling in love with her. Again, a little late on the train, but that’s fine. He tells her that he can see himself spending the rest of his life with her. Somehow, it brings Jojo to tears, and she says she wishes she could spend more time with him and the thought of leaving is making her cry. He tells her he has a surprise for her, and he’s got a little path of candles leading up to a rose-pedal heart, where he tells her that his whole heart is his.

And that ends the hometowns! Now Jojo has to make a decision about who stays and goes. I’m still confident that Chase goes, but it’s between Robby and Luke which one goes. I really hope Robby stays personally. He’s just such an amazing guy. This weeks rose ceremony weirdly takes place in a plane hangar. Robby arrives first, followed by Chase, Luke and Jordan. I have a sneaking feeling that Robby gets eliminated and he becomes the next Bachelor. Either him or Derek or James. I’m telling everyone right now, there’s no way in hell I’m going to document that. Just know that it’s going to be more drivel. I’m also anticipating Jojo to have a hard time with this decision and probably has a breakdown. Lots of crying, woe is me, no decision being made and the guys probably feeling like they are going to throw up. One guy has to go home. Let’s see!

And oh my gosh, before the ceremony even starts, she tells the camera that she thinks she has to say goodbye to Luke! I didn’t see that coming! Also there’s 3 roses, so only one person gets eliminated!

Rose Ceremony!

First Rose: …And Luke says he wants to talk to her??? Luke takes this opportunity to tell her that “I’m in love with you” and he wanted her to know that. …well then. Cue breakdown? Yup! Cue breakdown!

Oh….I guess they’re not going to do the rose ceremony this episode? Next episode! Let’s go!

RB’s Psych Corner

There isn’t much here to analyze from the guy’s perspective that I haven’t already said. What I do want to point out is the importance of editing and how it affects my understand of the relationships. After this latest episode, I was confused as to why she would get rid of Luke before Chase. At the end of the episode, as a type of post-clip, there was a scene of Jojo and Chase building a snowman, and it immediately all made sense. Their sense of playfulness, comfort-level and banter is something that hasn’t been shown in any of the main clips, even on their one-on-ones. Although I maintain his family is a little weird, and he’s probably not a good fit for her, she’s obviously genuinely happy with him on a deeper emotional level, which is something I don’t see with her and Luke. Essentially, this is where I’m going to put my disclaimer that even though I’m analyzing the hell out of everyone, a lot of that relies on accurate editing, so with the exception of Chad, I want everything to be taken with a grain of salt and realize it’s an analysis of what I’m shown, not what I’m naturally able to see. That being said, Chad is still crazy and I’m genuinely worried about the reunion show.

Next episode! Let’s go!

The Bachelorette Season 12: A Review (Part 7)

Guys, I need to be honest with you. Watching this much reality television might actually be killing me. I find that I now dread the entire week having to write these “Bachelorette” articles. Praise be to the gods, however, that this damn season is almost over. I can almost guarantee I will not be doing this kind of psychological review again. With that being said, let’s get this damn thing over with.

This is the week that Jojo decides which 4 men make it to the “hometown dates”. Essentially, the semi-finalists who get to introduce Jojo to their families. Jojo, herself has been through this process, where her family basically attacked Ben (“The Bachelor”) for even being on the show.  Tension has been really random against Jordan as well. Robby’s also quickly become my favorite. Let’s see how this week goes!

There’s 6 guys left: Alex, Luke, James, Jordan, Chase and Robby. There’s no more one-on-one date roses, but there will be one available on the group date. Alex gets the one-on-one date! He gets to drive with Jojo to the countryside. Jojo seems to be having trouble getting comfortable with him emotionally, though I’m not entirely sure what she expected on a car drive? After a while, we just hit weird silence between these two. I’m gonna call no bueno, only because it doesn’t seem like a “comfortable” silence. They detour to a gaucho ranch, which is basically an Argentinian cowboy ranch! They meet, Carlos and Oscar, two cute gauchos who are going to show them the ropes!

The rest of the guys are taking a bus to get to the same location, and what do they do? They write a diss-rap about Alex, which I personally find absolutely hilarious and endearing. These kids are adorable. They then stop at a local BBQ highway stop. Jordan proclaims himself a picky eater and says he could be happier. To me, that’s kind of an odd thing to mention, but ok. The guys point out that almost after not getting a rose, Jojo immediately gives Alex a one-on-one, which perhaps might not be a good sign for him.

Back at gaucho camp, they’re riding horses! There’s adorable little doggies who keep running alongside the horses – I’m a HUGE fan! Then the horsies lie on their back and get belly-rubs from the gaucho! This is maybe my favorite one-on-one date yet! Apparently, Jojo’s a huge fan of Alex now too, so that’s a good sign. But she wants “harder conversations” with him, so we still have that coming up.

The rest of the guys finally get to their destination, and it’s where the guys will be staying for the rest of the week!

Jojo and Alex are on their dinner date, and I have a bad feeling, especially considering how optimistic Alex is.

Back at the house, Jordan gets his second one-on-one. Poor James is pretty upset considering he was on the chopping block last night.

Jojo’s asking Alex some really tough stuff and Alex tells her that he thinks that he’s falling in love with her. Jojo doesn’t respond at all, but she says she doesn’t know what to think of it when a closed off guy opens up emotionally. I can’t figure out what the hell this girl wants. She wants people to be open but also she doesn’t know how to feel about it? Op. She just said she doesn’t feel as excited as much as she should feel when Alex opens up to her. She says she can’t see herself getting to a point where she would feel that she’s falling in love with him, and she has to say goodbye to him now. What a twist!

One-on-one time with Jordan and they’re wine-tasting in Mendoza, Argentina! Jojo keeps emphasizing how comfortable she feels with Jordan, which again, makes me feel like something might be up, very soon.

Another date card comes in and Chase, James and Robby are all on the group date, and that means Luke is on the last one-on-one.

Back at the date, my bad feeling is definitely getting worse. They’re at dinner and Jordan says he’s going to tell Jojo “everything she needs to about my family”. He basically tells her that he has a great relationship with his oldest brother Luke and the rest of his family, but he doesn’t have a relationship at all with his brother Aaron. Jojo, as opposed to me, seems to be very happy that he said all of this. And then he drops the bomb and says that he’s in love with Jojo, and has known for a few weeks. Jojo responds very positively, so it seems like he won’t be getting the boot.

Next day, we have the group date! Jojo’s got a cute slumber-party type thing planned and it’s super cute! They’re playing all these cute games and then suddenly, we get to truth-or-dare. Robby’s been dared to streak (with his underwear on) and run through the hallway! He owns it though, so it’s ok! James, on the other hand, is taking the whole date to make up stories about Robby to Jojo to make him look bad. Not cool man.

Robby has his one-on-one time with Jojo, and talks to her about his family and his ex pretty openly. He mentions he only became single 4 months ago after a 3 year relationship, which catches Jojo off guard. But she really appreciates it. Next is Chase, and he says he wants to be open up with her, but he’s just nervous. But he tells her that she wants to spend the rest of his life with her. Last is James, and my bad feeling radar is coming up again. James brings up that he’s a little concerned because he feels like although their relationship is very strong, they’re relationship isn’t as physical it might be with others, to which Jojo responds that he has every quality she would want in a husband or the father of her children. That sounds like good news, but her face doesn’t exactly relay that. James, is over the moon, however, with Jojo and is ready to take her to his family. He tells her that he’s in the process of falling in love with her, and she says that makes her really happy. She doesn’t give him the boot either so that’s maybe a good sign? My money is on Robby for getting the rose. Robby kind of picks a fight with James, over the weirdest thing – the use of the word front-runner. James says he thinks people with one-on-ones are automatically safe and Robby takes real quick offense to that. Unfortunately for James, I actually do think that Robby is the front-runner, but I think James might be out, so I’m not entirely sure how Jojo’s deciding who’s on what date. And Robby’s got the rose! And James is confident either him or Chase is going home.

Time for Luke’s date and they’re at a ranch. Jojo says right of the bat that he’s the “total package” and everytime she’s with him, she feels more and more confident about their relationship. This is a great date for Luke though since he’s from a ranch-lifestyle. I do have to say though, they definitely have a chemistry going on that you definitely don’t see with anyone else. By miles.

The date went so well in fact, that Jojo says she’s confident about tonight’s rose and doesn’t even need a cocktail ceremony. Woah. And the other guys react similarly. One guy has to go home, and as much as I hate it, I’m fairly confident that it’s going to be James. She just doesn’t react to him as positively, which is ridiculous because by her own admission, he’s everything she looks for. The good thing is that he’s very aware of his own situation. And Robby already has a rose.

Rose Ceremony!

First Rose: Luke
Second Rose:  Jordan
Third Rose: Chase

That means James is going home. She walks him out and asks him to sit down for a bit. They talk and it’s very heart-breaking honestly. James says he’s bummed because he always here’s “you’re going to find a great girl” but he doesn’t know when that’s going to be, but it’s not Jojo’s fault at all. She’s still balling her eyes out, which is good to know that the decision wasn’t easy for her.

So, next week is hometowns! It should be interesting!

RB’s Psych Corner

Well, this week was certainly a whopper. I’d have to say what shocked me most was Jojo’s sureness in her decisions. I can’t honestly say she’s making good decisions, but she’s making adequate one’s quickly, which saves everyone a headache. Both Alex and James leaving was expected. Next week, it’s down to Chase, Robby, Jordan and Luke. I have a sneaking suspicion that Chase is going to get knocked out real fast, and something real bad is about to go down with Jordan. I’m fairly confident that Chase will be out next week. As for who is the other one who is out, I’m confident Jordan will actually stay solely based on Jojo’s bad decision making skills. This means it’s between Robby and Luke, (who should be the last 2 out of this group of 4), which will cause Jojo to have some sort of panic attack about how hard this all is, and she’ll eventually make a decision (I’m leaning towards keeping Luke because “he’s the whole package”) and she’ll end up sobbing the entire night. This show has very quickly become predictable.

My central fear is this constant discussion about Jordan not being “totally honest”. It concerns me that he doesn’t have a good relationship with his older brother, as well as the issues with his ex from before. Something just seems off about him. In regards to who “wins” this whole thing, I have a feeling that due to her independence, she picks Jordan, but she may decide that she doesn’t want a proposal at all, and she needs more time to get to know these guys one-on-one before making such a big life decision even though she keeps emphasizing how ready she is for marriage.

Here’s to hoping she proves me wrong and Robby wins the whole thing!

Next article should be out tomorrow so look forward to it!

The Bachelorette Season 12: A Review (Part 6)

Ok. We’re very late this week, but that’s ok because life makes you busy. Ok, episode 6!

So, so far we know they’re in Buenos Aires and there’s something shady going on with Jordan. There’s a serious chance he gets eliminated this week.

Episode starts with Jojo talking to Chris and she mentions concerns about being told “I love you” by anyone, forget Robby. Chris mentions the irony if she falls in love with two guys. I would be very upset. There’s going to be a group date, a single date and a two-on-one date this week. Again, that’s a guaranteed elimination.

The single date goes to Wells, which will be his first single date…and also potentially his first kiss with Jojo? The guys are judging him pretty hard. Personally, I find it the sweetest and most endearing! Alex makes the joke to Jojo’s face and it doesn’t go over well at all.

On the date, Welss buys her a bracelet. They keep intermingling commentary from the guys saying how terrible it is that he hasn’t kissed her yet. This is being made a much bigger deal than it needs to be. They go to this show called “Fuerza Bruta” which means “Brute Force” in English. Wells himself is now continuously talking about having to kiss her and somehow gives her a weird peck on the cheek.

Back at the house, the guys are saying their convinced that they’re not going to see Wells again.

And back at the date, he finally kisses her in a dark pool of apparently sexy water! Woo! But Jojo calls him out for kissing her “finally”. The whole situation is very weird, but apparently they’re both very happy with the way it ended. Jojo asks Wells about his last relationship, and he tells her that it was a 4 year long relationship, where they were the same personality but best friends.

Back at the house, the date card is there again. This time, Luke, Robby, Jordan, James and Alex all have a group date. That means a two-on-one between Derek and Chase.

Wells is talking about the things he needs in his perfect person, and he mentions his need for honesty. The date suddenly takes a REALLY bad turn. Wells mentions that he thinks that eventually love in a relationship fades away so you need more than just that initial excitement. Jojo doesn’t seem to like that and mentions that she thinks that “fairytale love” does exist and everyone deserves finding someone who always makes them excited. She mentions to the camera that his skepticism upsets her. Time for the date rose, and she actually doesn’t give him the rose! HOLY HELL. That means he’s going home, which is pretty sad.

The next day, we’re on the group date! They’re walking around the time and James is having some confidence issues for sure. He’s comparing his looks, personality, how little he stands out, how cool they are, etc. I don’t see these insecurities boding well for him.

They’re at dinner now and she has her one-on-ones. First up is Luke and she’s obviously VERY cozy with him, initiating kissing and everything. Honestly, it looks like she’s ready to jump him, which is very weird for me to be watching. That being said, he gives me a very creepy vibe, and I’m not entirely sure why. Jojo, however, is clearly VERY enamored. She says they have a very “passionate relationship”.

Back at the hotel, it’s just Derek and Chase and Chase is very confident he’s staying for weeks to come. That being said, he definitely did NOT like how confident Derek was about staying.

Now we’re at James’ one-on-one, and Jojo mentions James seems off. He mentions he’s very nervous, just in general, but he has issues with Jordan. That’s unexpected. Apparently he’s been showing a lot of attitude and comes off as entitled and that didn’t sit well with James. However, Jojo really appreciates James going out of his way to tell her.

Jojo grabs Jordan and asks him about the situation with James. Jordan doesn’t seem to happy with this being brought up at all, and even asks how the situation came up. The entire time, he’s laughing off the situation. He mentions off the bat that James is one of his best friends in the house and he seems somewhat confused by the situation. But he keeps repeating that he’s not entitled, he was just right. I personally don’t actually know how to take that. But I can see this not going a good way. In his private interview, he essentially calls James pathetic for calling out his integrity.

The guys are all sitting together without Jojo and there’s a very creepy and unnerving vibe as soon as Jordan enters the room. Jordan seems to want to have it out with James right away about what he said to Jojo. And then he does call James pathetic to his face. Well then. And the group rose goes to…my money’s on Luke. Just because of her weird attraction to him. And it goes to… Luke! Woo! Yay for guessing! Boo for creepiness.

Next day is the two-on-one. Derek is REALLY confident, and I’m not entirely sure why to be honest. They do a tango, and nothing really significant happens. Chase is starting to get in his own head about how close he and Derek might be though and he’s pulling back, as opposed to Derek getting more and more open. Chase has his one-on-one and he’s not doing well it seems. Jojo complains that after how open she was with him the week before, she feels like he didn’t give her anything back. Chase is completely taken aback, and tries to tell her he wants to give her all the things she wants, but she mentions that he simply hasn’t. Jojo says that it seems like she likes him more than he likes her. That’s definitely not a good sign. However, he manages to open up a little at the last minute and it seems to make Jojo feel better. I have no idea what’s gonna happen but my money is on Chase going out. And I was wrong! Chase gets the rose and Derek is out. In a private interview later, Derek is taking it really hard, he talks about how he’s imperfect and doesn’t understand why he’s crying. It’s actually very heartbreaking but Jojo is confident she made the right decision.

In the pre-rose ceremony interview, Jojo is talking about how she isn’t confident about who she wants to send home at all. There are only 3 roses and 4 guys. So one guy goes home tonight. Luke and Chase already have roses. That means it’s between Alex, Robby, Jordan and James. Personally, my money is on Alex, just because we haven’t seen a lot from him this week. But I really don’t know. It could just as easily be James. At the cocktail party, Jordan swoops Jojo right up to talk to her about the James situation. She feels very confident about them now, which is good for him.

Rose Ceremony!

First Rose: Robby
Second Rose: Jordan

Right as she’s about to give out the third rose, she apologizes and runs out. What??? She says that she just can’t hand out the rose, and then Chris takes the rose away. She walks back in and Chris brings back TWO roses!

Third Rose: Alex
Fourth Rose: James

Well that’s a twist! As grateful as James is to still be here, Alex seems upset that he wasn’t the clear favorite. It seems like he might take issue with this going forward.

 

RB’s Psych Corner

There isn’t too much to analyze this week. I have an incredibly bad and creepy feeling about Alex and Luke but I can’t pin my finger on it. Luke seems deceptive and Alex seems possessive. Neither is a good sign. Chase is fine but there’s nothing too exciting about him. And Jordan might stay, but some supposedly true colors might also come out. Personally, I love Robby and James the best. They seem like genuinely kind hearted people and they are both genuinely funny, not douchey people, which is something incredibly important to stress with Jojo, it seems. I’m putting my money on either Chase or Alex leaving next week. I assume Alex is going to get a one-on-one, and it’ll go great, but Jojo just won’t go through with the rose and Alex is going to be left very angry. He seems somewhat explosive and confrontational, almost like a mini-Chad. Thankfully, we haven’t seen any more of that dude. Other than that, Jojo clearly has some insecurities and if she doesn’t get past them, she isn’t going to make good choices going forward. I feel the same can be said of James. If the dude doesn’t get some self-confidence real fast, he’s going to get eliminated, real fast.

That’s all! See you guys next week!

The Bachelorette Season 12: A Review (Part 5)

Ok Day 5! Sorry I’m a bit late this week. But, we’re ready to go now! A review: Chad’s crazy. Let’s begin.

The boys are celebrating at the house that Chad’s finally gone (theoretically). They’re going pretty far with littler ceremonies, parties and even a funeral? I sense an ABC gimmick. Meanwhile, Chad’s creepily whistling through the woods…Annnddd he’s knocking on the front door of the house. Well damn. He walks in and trying to validate himself to the guys, which Jordan takes the opportunity to apologize to Chad for them not understanding him well enough and using it to maybe finally clear the air. You go Jordan! Instead, Chad decides to get more angry. He then points to Jordan’s skull saying he has “half a brain” and then gives him an overly tight handshake. Jordan tells Chad he’s sorry that Chad can’t come to the point to be man enough to apologize. Obviously, he turns to more insults. More creepy whistling… I feel like this isn’t the last we see of him.

Jojo and Alex are now kissing in front of a restaurant, and decide to go for a walk. He comes back to the house and the guys are literally carrying him on their shoulders.

We’re at the cocktail party now, and the guys are having their one-on-ones. Chase brings the little tackle bubbles to play around with Jojo. Robby’s next and he and Jojo make wishes in the pond. James F. is reading Jojo a poem, when Alex cuts in. Now Daniel’s talking to Jojo and Luke tries to cute in?

Evan points out the irony in Chad being gone is that the guys with roses have suddenly become mini-Chads. That doesn’t bode well. Luke comes up to Evan and says that if Evan hasn’t gotten his time with her, he better hurry up, because Luke is going to go for seconds. Evan’s not happy.

Jordan’s one-on-one is next, and he says that he doesn’t want to take up too much of her time; then pushes her up against a wall and just starts making out with her. That’s charisma?

Chris shows up (the host dude), and whisks Jojo away. I’m not entirely sure if all the other guys got a chance to see her?

Predictions on who leaves next: Vinny and Grant. Luke, Alex and Jordan already have roses.

Rose ceremony!

First Rose: Derek
Second Rose: Robby
Third Rose: Chase
Fourth Rose: Wells
Fifth Rose: Grant
Sixth Rose: Vinny
Seventh Rose: James T.
Eight Rose: Evan

That means James F. and Daniel are out.

Evan points out it’s been a month they’ve been pursuing her now. So basically every episode represents a week of real-world time. Just a fun fact to know.

Daniel points out that she obviously is looking for personality because his personality is shit. But if it was based off looks, he would be winning, but she picks guys like Wells and Evan. He has more experience than all the other guys combined. I’m really not sure what to do with this rant of his. But he’s gone, so whatever.

Jojo tells the guys they’re going to Uruguay for the rest of the trip! They’re very excited, needless to say.

Jordan gets the one-on-one that week. Chase points out that he feels like Jordan feels the most false to him, and there were 2 football dates geared specifically around him. The guys are super unhappy. On top of that, they find some trash magazines about Jojo’s ex-Chad and how they got back together after the last season of the Bachelor ended. They’re feeling incredibly insecure.

Luke, Derek, Chase, Evan, James, Vinny, Grant, Wells, and Alex all get the next group date.

Jordan tells Jojo that he’s falling in love with her, when Jojo brings up that she met an Ex of Jordan’s. Uh-oh. They have an actually productive and really enlightening conversation out of this. Jordan admits that he was just super immature in his last relationship and he should have done things differently, and although he didn’t cheat, he was definitely a jerk towards his ex. So Jojo ends up giving him a rose.

Jojo’s sitting down with the producers for her interview, talking about how confident she feels about her relationship with Jordan, when the producer comes up and shows her the magazine the guys found. Meanwhile, the guys tell Jordan about the article. They keep switching back and forth between the guys and Jojo’s interview, and she’s in complete tears at this point. She calls her Ex out for being a terrible person and just can’t allow other to be happy if he’s not. So Jojo goes proactive and goes over to the guys place to talk to them. Poor girl is really, really upset. I feel like she’s holding herself back from hysterics at this point.

Robby and Jordan are having a spa date, which is probably been the best part of this show, disregarding how gimmicky and set up it is. Robby predicts that the guys on the group date are going to take advantage of how upset Jojo was the night before.

On the date, the guys are going sand boarding and Evan predicts he’ll have another bloody nose. All of a sudden, it starts raining. Like, real rain. Not California rain.

Back at the hotel, Robby gets his own one-on-one date.

And then Luke swoops in on Jojo to take advantage of the article from yesterday, just like Robby predicted. Not saying he’s being malicious, just commenting. All the other guys seem to follow suit.

At the one-on-one’s, Derek’s having insane insecurity. He tells Jojo he’s having jealousy issues. Alex points out that he doesn’t like Derek either. He’s apparently jealous, insecure and calculated, which isn’t mostly wrong. Alex has his one-on-one too, but nothing pertinent was really said. So rose time, and Derek gets it. Alex is pissed and calls him an “insecure little bitch” and calls it a “pity rose”. Very harsh.

Robby’s date is the last date in Uruguay. I feel like the dude is fake, but I’m biased towards his name probably. He keeps using opportunities to speak a little bit of spanish, which is pretty adorable. He wants to say “I love you”, but is scared she won’t say it back. They then literally jump off a cliff together, and it’s apparently very romantic. Jojo says that for her, its a validation of how much she trusts Robby.

Back at the house, Chase and Alex aren’t happy with Derek and are semi-confronting him. It’ pretty petty and doesn’t really make a lot of sense.

Robby seems to be edging towards saying the magic words, but seems very hesitant. He tells a very heartfelt story about how his best friend dying last year made him realize he needs to do what makes him happy and be in the moment. He then tells her that he loves her, and of course, she doesn’t say it back. But he seems happy nonetheless. This makes him the first one to officially say “I love you!”

Time for the cocktail party, and everyone seems nervous. All of a sudden, Derek calls out Alex, Jordan, Chase and Robby to talk to them. I’m not entirely sure what he’s talking to them about and what they’re upset about, because no one really said anything concrete. Jordan sums it up that Derek feels like the guys have formed a clique and are exclusionary so Jordan asks the rest of the guys if anyone else feels like he’s excluded them. Wells defends Derek, but Chase jumps in to attack Derek again. None of this really makes sense. I can’t even parse this.

Chris comes in, and Jojo doesn’t want a cocktail party. They’re jumping into the rose ceremony and three of them will be going home tonight. Alex, still, is pissed.

Rose ceremony time! My suspicions for who is leaving: Vinny, Grant, and sadly Evan. I sense I’m going to be surprised again though.

First Rose: Luke
Second Rose: Chase
Third Rose: Alex
Fourth Rose: James
Fifth Rose: Wells

NOOOOO EVAN. So sad! His commentary was literally the best. But I hit it right on the head! Evan’s really upset that he didn’t take proper advantage of their time together and is disappointed in himself. Grant says that she made a mistake, but he’s really confused. Vinny seems the least upset at the beginning, but he quickly jumps to be incredibly upset.

 

RB’s Psych Corner

First off, I’m surprised the Chad caused as little trouble as he did. I honestly anticipated him coming back with a vengeance to hit someone. Not saying he wasn’t completely out of line, but less out of line than anticipated.

The main issue this week seems to have been that the majority of the guys were starting to form cliques and have pointless arguments. My feeling is when there is a constant bonding factor, such as a common enemy, and that factor is suddenly ripped away, a vacuum is immediately formed, and everyone subconsciously rushes to fill it with something else to bond about. There’s two ways to handle this. Either you find something else to bond over, or you continue to bring back patterns of the previous associations, all at the same level of intensity as before. Either way, you’re going to end up in a situation where everyone’s going to be acting very weird for a little bit of time. In this particular case, let’s take Alex. Alex arguably had the most hate for Chad, but with Chad gone, he needs something else to focus his energy one. Enter, Derek and Jordan. He doesn’t have particularly good reasons to hate either of them, but the intensity overall is probably amounting to a similar level as with Chad.

However, that being said, just because someone is over-reacting, doesn’t mean they aren’t necessarily right. Several of the guys have pointed out an issue with Jordan, either with him being fake or them feeling attacked. Now, with reality shows, there’s a lot of content and context they have to edit out for times sake. That means we may be missing pertinent information to psychoanalyze. But, if several of the guys have an issue with Jordan, and we don’t see it as the audience, it’s best to go with the opinion of those who are actually living through the situation. This makes me doubt my own belief in Jordan’s authenticity, though he seems to handle every situation with grace. Alex and Luke are also becoming rather haughty, which is most likely going to lead to problems if they don’t clean up their act fast.

I’d have to say the best part of this week is now that Chad’s gone, we finally get an opportunity to analyze everyone else! I’m personally crushed that Evan is gone, but it is indicative of the type that Jojo has. Though personality is her most important criteria, that personality seems to be balanced with body type. Instant chemistry and attraction are important to her, and she’s a visual person, so she gets a lot of that from looks. Basically, if a guy looks good, and treats her well, he’s a keeper; i.e. Robby, Chase, Jordan, Chad, etc. If it comes to a clash between looks and personality however, she’ll go with the personality, I suspect against her gut reaction, which is mainly towards “the bad boy” character. That being said, morals are the thing she’s most sensitive about, and the second she can’t trust them, she will dump them.

This brings us to Evan. One might think, “Evan had the personality! Why didn’t he stay?” The reasoning is simple: he didn’t “wow” her enough. Basically, she doesn’t do well with shy guys, and if it takes too much time for the charisma to come out, then she’s done with it. Evan, although witty on camera, had a tendency to be a bit more reserved and quiet around Jojo. So even though his kind personality shown through, the lack of desire to make-out with him in secret corners won out and she called it quits. Unfortunate, but ultimately for the best, because Evan needs a girl who is a bit more reserved, traditional and an intellectual equal. Anyone who participates on “The Bachelorette” is probably not that. And that’s a wrap!

See you next week!

 

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